women in India

When we have pain in our stomach we consult a doctor,when we have fever we consult a physician.But when we are having problems is our life,our relations,career we hesitate to consult.

With time everything changes,so changes the facts we learned in our childhood.Some hold true some become myths.what is needed to be done is to change our mind set with time.

There was a time when the mentality towards education in Indian parents was to place their boys in science and maths but girls in only arts; or they never gave education to their girl child.

The condition was so much pathetic due to lack of knowledge and presence of various superstitions in the society.Caste system played a vital role in poisoning the society.The girls were not given any consideration while boys were given preference over girls in every task.The was so much importance of a male child that girls were killed even before they were born or at the time of their birth.

Dowry was also a curse for them.For many years we have seen cases where brides were burnt,killed or immensely tortured.These causes sticked to Indian society like termites eat up trees.




Time changed and the masses got educated and realized that girls are as important as are boys when girls did tremendously good job as compared with boys.The a major section of the society became educated and realized the need to change and realized that girls and women are not merely for household work.They can drive a plane as well as spaceship.


The mind sets have changed but still a majority of people don't give women that respect that she deserves.Still we can see people pass comments on passing girls and ladies.Use bad and abusive language in homes with their wives.Needless to say we still lack moral knowledge how much we boast that we have set records in IT,Engg.,Medical,Law or any other field.

But who cares until it affects us directly,but it does.The day we realize this we will start giving women that respect what she deserves as nature is also known as MOTHER NATURE.

thanks and best regards

compromise or complain?

One day I was talking to one of my friend. She was telling me about the problems she was facing in a new city she recently moved in. I said "why don't you complaint about this"?

She told me a saying which goes like this: - If you complain then don’t compromise & if you compromise then don’t complain.

I thought a lot about this & realized that we all complain our whole life to many people about many things. This thing doesn’t works like this, that person doesn’t behave this way; etc.etc.The problem is still the same all over. When ever we compromised with a situation, person or event we lose our right to complain about that.

For example when we didn’t study properly we loosed our right to complain that the checking was not fine or exam was tough to crack…but we did complain.

In INDIA after independence we compromised with a few people, made them our representative in the name of government. They made the economy of the country progress but then corruption eroded our moral values & everything became salable leaving no place for the common people. Those who possess money power were enjoying every benefit which they aren’t supposed to get.

Then we complain about government policies not working & not focused on poor/common people. But we were those people who elected those persons who rule the country, how can we complain now.

It was our decision to vote for them & rule us for years. They were busy in making money & the common man suffered for a day’s meal. They made us fight in the name of religion, caste, and region; and we did that successfully for years after years. The British men used the DIVIDE and RULE to rule INDIA. Now INDIANS are using it to rule INDIANS.

We got Independence more than 50 years ago but we still are slaves to our mental barriers of caste, creed, and religion. Just pick any newspaper & you can see many shameful incidents daily where people fight, kill each other in the name of religion.

Babri masjid destruction case (December 6, 1992),

The Godhra train burning case (27 February 2002),

Shiv sena workers betraying north Indians case (March 2008)

• We made immense progress in the IT sector but failed to provide drinking water to our villages.

• We made Malls n shopping complexes but failed to provide basic education to little children.

• We made world records in cricket but failed to provide a better education system in which we can learn & apply that knowledge to earn a living.

• We compromised everywhere; we gave others the chance to exploit ourselves.

Do you really think we should complaint…..If yes why we compromise for petty issues which hold no value when compared to the biggest religion called HUMANITY?

We turned into money making machines & forgot everything except our personal gains. We lied, we bribed, took bribe, Produced false results & statements…& now when somebody is doing the same to us we want to complaint.Isnt it funny…..No. …

Better to say its RIIDICULOUS.

If we go on like this, that day is not so far when we will get everything burned like the train in Gujarat leaving only ashes behind. We must wake up before it’s too late. Its not only a question about complaining or compromising, it’s a question about morality and values. Only saying that we have a great culture or great system of values doesn’t means anything until n unless we apply those morals & principles to our own self and everybody.

That’s the only way to achieve overall progress of any country in the world where people are successful as well as better human beings

a common life path

life's duality is it's biggest advantage as well as disadvantage.Just like some questions have no right answer,many things in life are good for somebody but they are totally bad for others...may be a disastrous option.Lets have a look at some ticking lines..

Nobody is perfect then who is NOBODY???

Nothing is Impossible,Some People do nothing.Are they doing the impossible.

Don't worry,my motto of writing this post is not to confuse you but to make the clouds of confusion more clear.

People are never the same,they change with time,their views,opinions,attitudes,belief systems & everything changes with time.So it happens that the same option which was good for them may not be so GOOD in time.

Also human mind is the most complicated thing in this whole universe.It's almost next to impossible that what a particular person is going to do in a particular set of conditions.Whenever a person does good,his action is influenced by his views n beliefs.The simple view states that the person is an angel,he likes doing good,doing that act gives him a feeling of happiness.

But a logical postmortem by a higher intellectual gives somethings new.It states that Everyone has a devil & angel inside him,whichever forces more,the person acts that way.Whenever we are doing a sin,most of the time we know that is it good or bad.What prompts us to take the initiative is that we look for instantaneous gains in life,pleasure for a short span of time instead of following rules of society.

We think that nobody is going to tell about this.

We cheat our own self.

We lie to our inner soul.

And if we are lucky nobody knows what we have done.

Reason???

In the race of life,we act selfishly to fulfill our hidden motives.To capture a status in the society,to feel more satisfied.But all this ends very soon as we are alone n try to think.Although most of us NEVER EVER try to think about OURSELF.Our value system is so much corrupted & degraded with time that we never feel that we need to think what we are actually pursuing in our life.What Purpose we are following in our life.

A typical life path goes like this:--

1-10 yrs : crazy for toys,chocolates,ice cream n similar stuff.

10-20 yrs : get good marks,get good college,girlfriend.

20-30 : get a bike,car,clothing's,search for girlfriend,become engineers,doctors,lawyers,IAS.

30-40 : get a nice paying job,marry a beautiful girl whose father can afford a high dowry,settle in country or abroad,have children.

40-50 : read newspaper,morning walk in park,play with kids,get an insurance policy,go for trips to here n there.

50-60 : get involved in some social talks in the neighborhood n society,guide children by giving instructions.

60-more : yours luck,how much you can go.


In this whole path,we hardly ever think what was the purpose of our life.We always act in our favor.We try to have as much as gain as we can.What values we can pass to our children n expect them to behave properly if our own system of values is corrupted.We always cheated our own self n we expect other to be honest.

If we tried to be more authentic n honest with our self in our life n decisions,we don't feel much regret later.some people never realize in their whole life that they need to think what they are doing n had done,they never feel anything,only to find in the end that they have lost their life path.

To feel n think about our self is a necessary talk for every human,but hardly none of us Do this.Those who Do know what inner wisdom,peace n satisfaction in LIFE IS.


thanks n regards.

sawaal

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kya mujhe apne sang le jaogey us paar..

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joojhta kai sawaalon se

ladta apne andar ki ladai..is duniya se

ki har koshish karta dilodimag se

ki uski aankhon ka har sapna poora kar sakun is khuli aankhon se..

paarth

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jo nahi sochna tha wohi sochta hun main

apne aap hi apne jahen mein ladta khud se

ek bhavnao ki deewaar ko todta hun main

rukta hun kabhi apne hi khoon ko behta dekh kar

neer saa hi samjhne laga hun main

ki ab mol nahi rakhte aansun kisi ke mere liye

aansuon ko sadiyon se peeta raha hun main

hazaar koshishen ki zamaane ne mujhe todne ki

ki har baar zaraaey se khud ko jodta hun main.

Har feeki hoti muskaan ko firse jagata hun

Na jane kaun si mazil ko dhoondta hun main

Toot jata hai har rishta jhooth ka ek din

Ki toote huey rishton ko jodne laga hun main

Maayoos aankhon ko jeena sikha raha hun

Apne liye jeena hi bhool gaya hun main

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Begaano se apno k sapno ki roshni deta hun main.

Bahut roka usne kisi ko jeena seekhne se

Uski raah ke pattharon ko hata raha hun main.

Fir se khatam ho gam ki nisha ka pahar

Har bujhte diye to khud se jala raha hun main

Nahi khatam ho sakta savera hone se pahle

waqt ki talwaar pe khud ko chala raha hun main.