SIDE EFFECTS OF IMPERFECT PERFECTION

What is the maximum limit of perfection?

There is a saying that nobody is perfect...well I'm nobody.

Many people will ask me how I'm nobody,because i exists in every man..but partially.Nobody hold nobody completely because that would be an absolute thing.

Everyday i see many people doing various works.Some are legends in their fields or masters of their work.Many crave for money,others for satisfaction which can be of any kinda ranging from a small wish to a big desire or a lifetime dream.

sometimes i ask myself what should be the guiding pus pose of a human life??

money

power

thrill

family

relations

socialism

i find it hard to get one single reason,because there can never be a single reason as it would lead to disharmony in life.To live a almost perfect life one needs to have a balanced mixture of these things.Excelling in any one will lead to imperfection in the others which would ultimately harm the person itself.I've read about many great personalities which were legends in their field...but did you even thought how their other life areas were??

Were they the equally good in others fields also like personal relations,mental peace?

The answer is no.

The reason is whenever one focuses too much on one skill..the others are effected.The point I'm putting is of a high level thinking but we must think about this sometime in our life.

What adds more fuel to the fire is the comparative nature of human beings.We always try to compare things by the things we have experienced our self,heard,seen or felt in some phase of our life.When we fail in something we want our children to try the same.Although not all do this but majority follows the same pattern.Say it marriage,buying clothes,eating,dressing up.. we always try to guide up...Sometimes we do the right guidance and sometimes end up with only harsh words.

We always define perfection in our own terms.To some it is a Degree from IIM,a job in USA,a big property,or a rich family to get married.We all thrive for our perfection all our life.Perfection may be relative up to a bit..but excess of this always kills the spirit of real perfection.

May be one should give a second thought to their definition of perfection.Do they ever get what they were running for all their life,or they just ended up with excess of comparative forms which have no end.

Perfection should be carried with a balanced approach in life...perfection in a single skill can give u success in one field but for overall satishfaction in life..u need to be perfectly balanced in life.Man is a social creature and its perfection should be synchronous with his/her social life.

गर्व की मौत या समझौते की ज़िन्दगी

कभी कभी मैं सोचता हूँ की क्या बेहतर है .....

दुनियादारी के नाम पर अपने उसूलों को बेच के जिंदा रहना या सच्चाई,इमानदारी,न्याय के लिए पूरी दुनिया से लड़ते लड़ते एक दिन ख़त्म हो जाना ।

बचपन से लेकर आज तक जो कुछ पढ़ के सीखा वो सब तो स्कूल खत्म होते ही खत्म होता सा लगता है...

सच क्या है ???

वो जो पहले पढ़ा या वो जो अब दुनिया के स्कूल में होता हुआ दिखता है ।




हर चीज बिकती सी दिखायी देती है,जिसके पास ताक़त है ,जो बलवान है ,वोह सब कुछ कर सकता है ।
हर चीज सच कर सकता है । मैं देखता हूँ जब सीमा पे जाते सिपाहियों को जो बस एक देशभक्ति के जज़्बात की खातिर अपनी ज़िन्दगी तक की परवाह नही करते ,और दूसरी तरफ़ हमारे देश के नेता जो अपनी ज़िन्दगी के लिए किसी जज्बे की परवाह नही करते ।



उनके लिए क्या कोई उसूल है भी ?

कौन सही है ???


क्या किसी के पास वक्त भी है ये सोचने का की हम क्या कर रहे हैं और क्यूँ कर रहे हैं ??


किसी की शहादत पे भी राजनीति करते नेता ??

या सबसे जल्दी खबरें दिखा के देशभक्ति करते अनगिनत चैनल ??

किसी राज्य में लोगों को मार के भगाते ही लोग ?

या जाति के नाम पे आपस में आजतक लड़ते लोग?

या दहेज़ क नाम पे मासूम लड़कियों को मारता हुआ हमारा समाज ?

चोरी करते और नाम कमाते नामी उद्योगपति ?

और न जाने क्या क्या ??


शायद इनमें से कोई नही सोचता कुछ भी, सिवा अपने झूठे उसूलों को बेच के पैसा कमाने के ।

पर हम में से कोई भी इन्हे गाली देता है तो वो भी ग़लत है क्यूंकि गन्दगी में रहते रहते हूँ भी उस गन्दगी का ही एक हिस्सा बन चुके हैं . समाज किसी देश की दिशा निर्धारित करता है और समाज बनाते हैं मैं,आप और हम सब।

हम हमेशा सोचते हैं की कोई मसीहा आएगा और हमें इन सब मुश्किलन से बचा लेगा । पर हम में से कोई भी जो ग़लत होता है उसे रोक के सही करने की कोशिश के बारे में सोचता तक नही है । अगर कोई गलती से सोच भी लेता है तो उसका दिमाग उसे कहता है की मत करो ,इससे तुम्हारा नुक्सान होगा । अगर एक आदमी सही काम करना भी चाहे तो १००० लोग उसे रोकने के लिए पहले ही खड़े होते हैं ।

रास्ते में मरते हुएय आदमी को उठाते ही हमें इस चीज का डर लगता है की पुलिस में सवाल जवाब कौन करेगा ,मरने दो ... पर जब कोई हमारे घर का ऐसे फंस जाए तो हमें सारे इंसानियत के सारे सिद्धांत याद हो जाते हैं जबानी ।



१५ अगस्त और २६ जनवरी को तो हमें सब भारतवासी भाई नजर आते हैं,पर जब भी हमारे पड़ोस में कुछ अनहोनी हो जाए तो हमारे पास वक्त नही होता ,बस औपचारिकता करने कोई लिए चले जायेंगे ये सोच कर सास बहू देखने में लगे रहते हैं की मिहिर की तीसरी शादी आने वाली है आज ।

हमारा समाज असल में एक उस भीड़ का नाम हो गया है जो बस खड़े होके तमाशा देख सकती है,कुछ कर नही सकती किसी के लिए नियम और कायदे क़ानून बता सकती है । जो सही करता है उसे हमारा ही समाज निगल जाता है ,समाज की भलाई के नाम पे । ये समाज के लिए ख़तरा है ,वोह समाज में अच्छा नही माना जायेगा ।

हम सब खोखले हो चुके हैं । बस एक झूठ की चादर से अपने अन्दर की आवाज को जिंदा रहने कोई लिए खत्म कर देते हैं । बेच चुके हैं आपने ही हाथों अपने उसूलों को क्यूंकि हमें जिंदा रहना ज्यादा अच्छा लगता है बजाये उन उसूलों के लिए दर्द सहना । गांधीजी के ३ बंदरो से भी ज्यादा अच्छे बन्दर बन चुके हैं हम , न कुछ दिखाई देता है ,न कुछ सुनाई देता है ,और न ही कोई आवाज आती है हमारे अन्दर से हो रहे समाज के प्रदूषण से के लिए कुछ कहने की..... अगर गलती से कोई आवाज आ भी जाए तो उसे हमेशा कोई लिए अपने सीने में दफ़न कर देते हैं जिंदा रहने की कीमत समझ कर।


येही है हमारे आज का सच ...हमारी ज़िन्दगी का सच जो सबको पता है पर कोई भी मानना नही चाहता । हमारे अन्दर इंसान जैसा कुछ बचा ही नही है। बस जंगल के सियारों सी हालत है सभी की...सबके रंग भले ही अलग अलग हो गए हैं पर चमड़ी के अन्दर सब एक जैसे ही हैं ।


जब तक झूठ और ग़लतफ़हमियों में रहना बंद नही करेंगे हमारा ऊधार असंभव है ,क्यूंकि जब भगवान् ने इंसान को बनाया तब उसने इंसान को सबसे कीमती चीज दी ,वोह था उसका दिमाग । जग लोग सही सोच के चुप बैठ बैठना बाद कर देंगे और कुछ करने लगेंगे उस दिन इस समाज,देश और दुनिया को उसकी सही दिशा मिल जायेगी ,अन्यथा दुनिया बारूदी विनाश के ढेर पे खड़ी है,बस एक आग लगाने वाला उल्लू चाहिए जो कहीं न कहीं से आ ही जायेगा एक दिन इस दुनिया को आग लगा के ख़ाक करने कोई लिए ।

log

jazbaat bechtey log,ek roti k tukdey ki talaash mein

sisakte huey log,taraste do boond paani ko

dikhte hain mujhe apni aankhon se har jagah



ek muskurahat k intezaar mein baitha koi

sardi ki raaton mein jalti hui chand lakdiyon k paas

mitaane ki koshish karta us thand ko



tyre se khuchla hua fool,chap gaya hai jaise sadak pe

na mahek na kaaya hai na rang hai baaki

jeeney ki aas mein martey huey se log



kuch bhoolte kuch yaad karte log

ajab gajab se rangon mein khud k chehre ka dard

chipaane ki koshish mein andhey hain log




raat k andhere mein,jaam takraatey log

bhulane ki koshish aur yaad karte log

kabhi girte kabhi ladkhate huey log



safal hone k liye,khud k usulon ko neelaam karte log

bhaag rahe hain idhar se udhar,udhar se idhar

ki do ghadi ka sukoon paa sakein woh log



jhooth bolte log,dhokha dete log,

zinda rehkar bhi laash jaise log

insaano k bhes mein jaanwaron jaise log



khoon peetey apno ka,rulate tod k unke sapno ko

bachcho ko daraatey huey log

insaan khareedtey aur bechte log



is bheed mein sabko dekhti woh aankhein

maasoom se sawaalon se bhari hui sochti


kyun banaye bhagwan ne ye log


kyun banaye bhagwan ne ye log

women in India

When we have pain in our stomach we consult a doctor,when we have fever we consult a physician.But when we are having problems is our life,our relations,career we hesitate to consult.

With time everything changes,so changes the facts we learned in our childhood.Some hold true some become myths.what is needed to be done is to change our mind set with time.

There was a time when the mentality towards education in Indian parents was to place their boys in science and maths but girls in only arts; or they never gave education to their girl child.

The condition was so much pathetic due to lack of knowledge and presence of various superstitions in the society.Caste system played a vital role in poisoning the society.The girls were not given any consideration while boys were given preference over girls in every task.The was so much importance of a male child that girls were killed even before they were born or at the time of their birth.

Dowry was also a curse for them.For many years we have seen cases where brides were burnt,killed or immensely tortured.These causes sticked to Indian society like termites eat up trees.




Time changed and the masses got educated and realized that girls are as important as are boys when girls did tremendously good job as compared with boys.The a major section of the society became educated and realized the need to change and realized that girls and women are not merely for household work.They can drive a plane as well as spaceship.


The mind sets have changed but still a majority of people don't give women that respect that she deserves.Still we can see people pass comments on passing girls and ladies.Use bad and abusive language in homes with their wives.Needless to say we still lack moral knowledge how much we boast that we have set records in IT,Engg.,Medical,Law or any other field.

But who cares until it affects us directly,but it does.The day we realize this we will start giving women that respect what she deserves as nature is also known as MOTHER NATURE.

thanks and best regards

compromise or complain?

One day I was talking to one of my friend. She was telling me about the problems she was facing in a new city she recently moved in. I said "why don't you complaint about this"?

She told me a saying which goes like this: - If you complain then don’t compromise & if you compromise then don’t complain.

I thought a lot about this & realized that we all complain our whole life to many people about many things. This thing doesn’t works like this, that person doesn’t behave this way; etc.etc.The problem is still the same all over. When ever we compromised with a situation, person or event we lose our right to complain about that.

For example when we didn’t study properly we loosed our right to complain that the checking was not fine or exam was tough to crack…but we did complain.

In INDIA after independence we compromised with a few people, made them our representative in the name of government. They made the economy of the country progress but then corruption eroded our moral values & everything became salable leaving no place for the common people. Those who possess money power were enjoying every benefit which they aren’t supposed to get.

Then we complain about government policies not working & not focused on poor/common people. But we were those people who elected those persons who rule the country, how can we complain now.

It was our decision to vote for them & rule us for years. They were busy in making money & the common man suffered for a day’s meal. They made us fight in the name of religion, caste, and region; and we did that successfully for years after years. The British men used the DIVIDE and RULE to rule INDIA. Now INDIANS are using it to rule INDIANS.

We got Independence more than 50 years ago but we still are slaves to our mental barriers of caste, creed, and religion. Just pick any newspaper & you can see many shameful incidents daily where people fight, kill each other in the name of religion.

Babri masjid destruction case (December 6, 1992),

The Godhra train burning case (27 February 2002),

Shiv sena workers betraying north Indians case (March 2008)

• We made immense progress in the IT sector but failed to provide drinking water to our villages.

• We made Malls n shopping complexes but failed to provide basic education to little children.

• We made world records in cricket but failed to provide a better education system in which we can learn & apply that knowledge to earn a living.

• We compromised everywhere; we gave others the chance to exploit ourselves.

Do you really think we should complaint…..If yes why we compromise for petty issues which hold no value when compared to the biggest religion called HUMANITY?

We turned into money making machines & forgot everything except our personal gains. We lied, we bribed, took bribe, Produced false results & statements…& now when somebody is doing the same to us we want to complaint.Isnt it funny…..No. …

Better to say its RIIDICULOUS.

If we go on like this, that day is not so far when we will get everything burned like the train in Gujarat leaving only ashes behind. We must wake up before it’s too late. Its not only a question about complaining or compromising, it’s a question about morality and values. Only saying that we have a great culture or great system of values doesn’t means anything until n unless we apply those morals & principles to our own self and everybody.

That’s the only way to achieve overall progress of any country in the world where people are successful as well as better human beings

a common life path

life's duality is it's biggest advantage as well as disadvantage.Just like some questions have no right answer,many things in life are good for somebody but they are totally bad for others...may be a disastrous option.Lets have a look at some ticking lines..

Nobody is perfect then who is NOBODY???

Nothing is Impossible,Some People do nothing.Are they doing the impossible.

Don't worry,my motto of writing this post is not to confuse you but to make the clouds of confusion more clear.

People are never the same,they change with time,their views,opinions,attitudes,belief systems & everything changes with time.So it happens that the same option which was good for them may not be so GOOD in time.

Also human mind is the most complicated thing in this whole universe.It's almost next to impossible that what a particular person is going to do in a particular set of conditions.Whenever a person does good,his action is influenced by his views n beliefs.The simple view states that the person is an angel,he likes doing good,doing that act gives him a feeling of happiness.

But a logical postmortem by a higher intellectual gives somethings new.It states that Everyone has a devil & angel inside him,whichever forces more,the person acts that way.Whenever we are doing a sin,most of the time we know that is it good or bad.What prompts us to take the initiative is that we look for instantaneous gains in life,pleasure for a short span of time instead of following rules of society.

We think that nobody is going to tell about this.

We cheat our own self.

We lie to our inner soul.

And if we are lucky nobody knows what we have done.

Reason???

In the race of life,we act selfishly to fulfill our hidden motives.To capture a status in the society,to feel more satisfied.But all this ends very soon as we are alone n try to think.Although most of us NEVER EVER try to think about OURSELF.Our value system is so much corrupted & degraded with time that we never feel that we need to think what we are actually pursuing in our life.What Purpose we are following in our life.

A typical life path goes like this:--

1-10 yrs : crazy for toys,chocolates,ice cream n similar stuff.

10-20 yrs : get good marks,get good college,girlfriend.

20-30 : get a bike,car,clothing's,search for girlfriend,become engineers,doctors,lawyers,IAS.

30-40 : get a nice paying job,marry a beautiful girl whose father can afford a high dowry,settle in country or abroad,have children.

40-50 : read newspaper,morning walk in park,play with kids,get an insurance policy,go for trips to here n there.

50-60 : get involved in some social talks in the neighborhood n society,guide children by giving instructions.

60-more : yours luck,how much you can go.


In this whole path,we hardly ever think what was the purpose of our life.We always act in our favor.We try to have as much as gain as we can.What values we can pass to our children n expect them to behave properly if our own system of values is corrupted.We always cheated our own self n we expect other to be honest.

If we tried to be more authentic n honest with our self in our life n decisions,we don't feel much regret later.some people never realize in their whole life that they need to think what they are doing n had done,they never feel anything,only to find in the end that they have lost their life path.

To feel n think about our self is a necessary talk for every human,but hardly none of us Do this.Those who Do know what inner wisdom,peace n satisfaction in LIFE IS.


thanks n regards.

sawaal

uski maasoom nigaahon mein ek sawaal tha,

kya mujhe apne sang le jaogey us paar..

jaise chaand le jaata hai chaandni apne sang

jaise door chamakte taarey roshni apne sang..

baarish ke baad ki hawa mein jaise

mitti ki kushboo chalti hai har pal..

aur chalti hai nisha phoolon ki kushboo samete huey

jheenguron ke shor ke sannatey ki dewwar ko giraati..

uski maasoom nigaahon ne poocha

kya le chalogey mujhe apne sang...

jaise baadlon ko uda le jaati hai pawan

kisi anjaan aakaash ke kinaarey pe...

humesha humesha ke liye....

aur main tha..bas khamosh

joojhta kai sawaalon se

ladta apne andar ki ladai..is duniya se

ki har koshish karta dilodimag se

ki uski aankhon ka har sapna poora kar sakun is khuli aankhon se..